What Story Are you Relating To?
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WHAT STORY ARE YOU RELATING TO?
We bring a story into nearly every moment, and that affects how we experience that moment and how we respond. If the story is “I hate washing the dishes” and we are washing the dishes, then our experience of washing the dishes is affected by that. The same is true for relationships. We have stories about our loved ones, such as: “You don’t care about me.” “You’re not attractive enough for me.” “I can’t live without you.” “I need someone more exciting.” “I’m not rich enough for you.” “I can’t see myself with you.” You know what these stories are because they are what you might share with a friend or someone else you’re close to. These stories, the more they are repeated and reinforced, interfere with being present to the people we love, and they are never the whole truth. Rather than responding to our loved ones purely, we let our view of them or our relationship—our story—affect how we react to them. This is going on most of the time unconsciously. We aren’t naturally aware of our stories or examine them until, perhaps, they cause so much trouble that we are forced to.
Our stories about loved ones are created by the ego to strengthen it—to make it look good or maintain its beliefs about itself—so they are nearly always detrimental to relationships. The ego tends to spin negative stories about others, not positive ones. Replacing these negative stories with positive ones—or no story at all—can transform our relationships. For instance, what if your story about your partner was that he or she is the perfect one for you? This is often the story we tell in the beginning of a relationship, but soon the ego begins spinning its negative stories, which are essentially complaints about the other person not complying to our conditioning, fantasies, and desires. We paint the other in a negative light, not because that person isn’t right for us, but because he or she isn’t fulfilling our ego’s dreams and desires.
There’s a big difference between being with the right person and being with the person your ego considers to be the right person. Many of us are with exactly the right person, but our egos don’t think so! Is the ego right? What exposes the ego as an unworthy judge of this is that it finds fault with everyone, after its idealizations have fallen away. The ego won’t ever be happy with who you are with, so it’s best not to base your assessment of your partner on its assessment. It’s in the business of judgment, not love.
Many are in very difficult relationships, and even these are exactly the experience they are meant to have, for the time being anyway. Even an abusive relationship may be the experience we need to wake us up and help us see that we don’t deserve this treatment and get out of it and never make that mistake again. Every relationship we have leads to growth. We are changed by it, in a good way. We learn about ourselves and don’t make the same mistakes again, which makes it more likely the next relationship will be more successful.
To get the most out of the relationship you are in, it won’t be helpful to listen to the ego’s stories about it. They will only keep love from you. The ego’s stories bring separation and conflict. Essence would tell a different story about your loved one than the ego does. What might Essence’s story be? It would probably be something like “This person is in my life for me to love to the best of my ability. Let’s see what happens if I do that.” As Essence, we are here to serve others and to serve life. The ego, on the other hand, is all about serving itself. When we bring the demands and conditions of the ego into our relationships, we always fail. Love can’t survive in an environment of judgments and demands. It needs an environment of acceptance and the willingness to allow others to grow and develop and be as they are meant to, just as a parent would try to provide this for a child. This is great service—to be there for others, to support their growth, to support them in their trials, and to celebrate life with them.
Other people are the companions we (the Oneness that we are) have given ourselves on this journey. If we listen to the ego, others will feel more like adversaries than like another aspect of our own true Self. What if you really knew that the other was an aspect of your own Self, given to you to challenge and support you in your evolution? And given you to love? It’s up to us to take the opportunity to love and not listen to the tales the ego spins.
Eckhart Tolle Interview by John W. Parker
The following is part of an interview with Eckhart Tolle from a book called Dialogues With Emerging Spiritual Teachers by John W. Parker.
This morning we are speaking with Eckhart Tolle. As a note of introduction, can you share with us where you grew up and how it impacted your outlook on life?
Yes. I was born in Germany, where I lived for the first thirteen years of my life. At age thirteen I moved to Spain to live with my father, who had gone to live there, and I spent the rest of my teenage years in Spain. So that became the second culture in which I lived. The second language for me became Spanish- At nineteen I moved to England. For most of my adult life until about five or six years ago, I lived in England. So the fact of having lived in two or three different cultural environments perhaps was important because I was not conditioned by just one particular culture. People who have lived exclusively in one culture, part of their mental conditioning is the cultural collective conditioning of that country. It probably helped to live in more than one country, so that the conditioning was not so deep. One became more aware of the surrounding culture without being totally identified with it.
Another interesting fact is that at the age of thirteen I refused to go to school any longer. It was an inner impossibility for me to go to school. I was not a rebellious child at all, but I simply refused to go to school. The environment was so hostile. I simply refused, and so between thirteen and twenty-two or twenty-three I had no formal education. When I went to live with my father in Spain—my father was a very unconventional person, which is wonderful—he asked me, “Do you want to go to school here?” I was thirteen. I said, of course, “No, I don’t.” And he said, “O.K. then don’t go to school. Do what you like; read, study languages, you can go to language classes.” And that’s what I did. I pursued my own particular interests. I read some literature. I was very interested in astronomy. I read books that I wanted to read. Of course I learned Spanish fairly quickly. I went to English language classes. I liked languages and studied some French. And I spent a lot of time just being with myself, free of the external pressures of the environment or the culture. So that was very important.
It was only later in English at age twenty-two or twenty-three that I became interested in intellectual matters. My mind became more and more active. I was seeking some kind of answer through the intellect, through philosophy, psychology, and literature. And I believed that the answer was to be found in the intellect and philosophy. So that is when I started getting qualifications in preparatory evening classes that I needed to get into the university in England. That was my free choice and there was no internal compulsion behind it, nor external compulsion.
Did you study philosophy then or…?
As a subsidiary subject, but it was mostly literature and languages that I later studied in the university. So the fact about my childhood is that schooling stopped at thirteen. There was this space of freedom between thirteen and the rest of my teen-age years. [Chuckle]
Interesting. Do you recall having any spiritual experiences as a child that created or brought about the “longing” to know yourself?
Well, my childhood was not a happy one. Spain perhaps was relatively more happy than Germany, the first thirteen years. There was a lot of conflict in my home environment, as many people find, of course. Even as a child I could already feel what later would become periods of intense depression—I could already feel the beginnings of that. That certainly was not a “spiritual experience” but somehow it can be a prelude lo it. Even as a child I would sometimes think, “How can I eliminate myself from this world?” “How can I commit suicide?” and was working out possibilities of how to do it. [ Laughter ] Schooling was also so unpleasant for me. As a very young child I didn’t have the strength to say “No” to it. Basically life was not happy as a child. There was no “spiritual experience,” as such, except—yes, there was: although we lived in a fairly big city, I had a deep intimacy with nature. I remember getting on my bike and going beyond the outskirts of the city and looking around the world of nature, having just left behind the miserable world of school. And I remember (the thought going through my head, “This will always be here, this will always be here.” Nothing—just that—and looking. [Chuckle]
Did you actually do any work after you had finished school?
Yes. My first job was at seventeen. I was a tourist guide. [Chuckle] We were living in Southern Spain where many tourists came. It happened naturally. So that was my first job there. And later when I moved to England, somehow, although I did not have qualifications, I was offered a job to teach German and Spanish in a language school which I did for over three years. [Chuckle]
One more event about “spiritual experiences.” When we were in Spain, I was about fifteen when a German woman came to visit us and then was going to return to Germany. She said, “Can I leave a few things with you?” She left some books with us. There were five books I that were written by a German Mystic, early twentieth-century writer, not very well-known abroad. His spiritual name is Bo Yin Ra. I started reading these books. The text was written in almost Biblical style, pointing towards mystical experience. And I responded very deeply to those books. And I felt later that these books were left there for a purpose. I even copied parts of those books. They created an “opening” into that dimension. A year later she came back, and my father said to her, “So you left some books with us.” And she said, “No, I didn’t leave any books; I don’t remember.” She didn’t want him to remember that she had even left any books with us. [Laughter] So I still have some of these books at home, and I value them greatly.
Could you briefly share with us the main experiences you bad that led you to become a spiritual teacher? You have a recently published book titled. The Power of Now: a Guide to Spiritual Enlightenment. In your book, you mentioned a very profound experience, or a “shift” that took place.
Yes. I was about twenty-nine, and had gone through years of depression and anxiety. I had even achieved some successes, like graduating with the highest mark at London University. Then an offer came for a Cambridge scholarship to do research. But the whole motivating power behind my academic success was fear and unhappiness.
It all changed one night when I woke up in the middle of the night. The fear, anxiety and heaviness of depression were becoming so intense, it was almost unbearable. And it is hard to describe that “state” where the world is felt to be so alien, just looking at a physical environment like a room. Everything was totally alien and almost hostile. I later saw a book written by Jean-Paul Sartre called Nausea. That was the state that I was in, nausea of the world. [Chuckle] And the thought came into my head, “I can’t live with myself any longer.” That thought kept repeating itself again and again.
And (then suddenly there was a “standing back” from the thought and Looking at that thought, at the structure of that thought,” If I cannot live with myself, who is that self that I cannot live with? Who am I? Am I one—or two?” And I saw that I was “two.” There was an “I,” and (here was a self. And the self was deeply unhappy, the miserable self. And the burden of that I could not live with. At that moment, a dis-identification happened. “I” consciousness withdrew from its identification with the self, the mind-made fictitious entity, the unhappy “little me” and its story. And the fictitious entity collapsed completely in that moment, just as if a plug had been pulled out of an inflatable toy. What remained was a single sense of presence or “Beingness” which is pure consciousness prior to identification with form—the eternal I AM. I didn’t know all of that at the time, of course. It just happened, and for a long time there was no understanding of what had happened.
As the self collapsed, there was still a moment of intense fear—after all, it was the death of “me.” I felt like being sucked into a hole. But a voice from within said, “Resist nothing.” So I let go. It was almost like I was being sucked into a void, not an external void, but a void within. And then fear disappeared and there was nothing that I remember after that except waking up in the morning in a state of total and complete “newness.”
I woke up in a state of incredible inner peace, bliss in fact. With my eyes still closed, I heard the sound of a bird and realized how precious that was. And then I opened my eyes and saw the sunlight coming through the curtains and felt: There is far more to that than we realize. It felt like love coming through the curtains. And then as I walked around the old familiar objects in the room I realized I had never really seen them before. It was as if I had just been born into this world; a state of wonder. And then I went for a walk in the city. I was still in London. Everything was miraculous, deeply peaceful. Even the traffic. [Chuckle]
I knew something incredible had happened, although I didn’t understand it. I even started writing down in a diary, “Something incredible has happened. I just want to write this down,” I said, “in case it leaves me again or I lose it.” And only later did I realize (that my thought processes after waking up that morning had been reduced by about eighty to ninety percent. So a lot of the time I was walking around in a state of inner stillness, and perceiving the world through inner stillness.
And that is the peace, the deep peace that comes when there is no longer anybody commenting on sense perceptions or anything that happens. No labeling, no need to interpret what is happening, it just is as it is and it is fine. [Laughter] There was no longer a “me” entity.
After that transformation happened, I could not have said anything about it. “Something happened. I am totally at peace. I don’t know what it means.” That is all I could have said. And it took years before there was some “understanding.” And it took more years before it evolved into a “spiritual teaching .”That took time. The basic state is the same as then, but the external manifestation of the state as a teaching and the power of a teaching, that took time. It had to mature. So when I talk about it now to some extent, I add something to it. When I talk about the “original experience” something is added to it that I didn’t know then.
You mentioned that after a profound realization had occurred you read spiritual texts and spent time with various teachers. Can you share what writings and teachers had the greatest effect on you in further realizing what had been revealed to you?
Yes. The texts I came in contact with—first I picked up a copy of the New Testament almost by accident, maybe half a year, a year after it happened, and reading the words of Jesus and feeling the essence and power behind those words. And I immediately understood at a deeper level the meaning of those words. I knew intuitively with absolute certainty that certain statements attributed to Jesus were added later, because they did not “emanate” from that place, that state of consciousness, because I knew that place, I know that place. But when a statement emanates from that place, there is recognition. And when it does not, no matter how clever or intelligent it may sound it lacks that essence and it does not have that power. In other words, it does not emanate from the stillness. So that was an incredible realization, just reading and understanding “beyond mind” the deeper meaning of those words.
Then came the Bhagavad Gita, I also had an immediate, deep understanding of and an incredible love for such a divine work. The Tao Te Ching; also an immediate understanding. And often knowing, “Oh, that’s not a correct translation.” I knew the translator had misunderstood, and knew what the real meaning was although I do not know any Chinese. So I immediately had access to the essence of those texts. Then I also started reading on Buddhism and immediately understood the essence of Buddhism. I saw the simplicity of the original teaching of the Buddha compared to the complexity of subsequent additions, philosophy, all the baggage that over the centuries accumulated around Buddhism, and saw the essence of the original teaching. I have a great love for the teaching of the Buddha, a teaching of such power and sublime simplicity. I even spent time in Buddhist monasteries. During my time in England there were already several Buddhist monasteries.
I met and listened to some teachers that helped me understand my own state. In the beginning there was a Buddhist monk, Achan Sumedo, abbot of two or three monasteries in England. He’s a Western-born Buddhist.
And in London I spent some time with Barry Long. I also understood things more deeply, simply through listening and having some conversations with him. And there were other teachers who were just as meaningful whom I never met in person that I feel a very strong connection to. One is [J.] Krishnamurti, and another is Ramana Maharshi. I feel a deep link. And I feel actually that the work I do is a coming together of the teaching “stream,” if you want to call it that, of Krishnamurti and Ramana Maharshi. They seem very, very dissimilar, but I feel that in my teaching the two merge into one. It is the heart of Ramana Maharshi, and Krishnamurti’s ability to see the false, as such and point out how it works. So Krishnamurti and Ramana Maharshi, I love them deeply. I feel completely at One with them. And it is a continuation of the teaching.
You mentioned that you have been a spiritual teacher for ten years now?
It is very hard to tell when I started to be a spiritual teacher. There was a time when occasionally somebody would come and ask me questions. One could say at that point I became a spiritual teacher, although the term did not occur to me then.
For awhile I thought I was a “healer.” It was a few years after the transformation happened. Occasionally people would come to me. I was sitting with a woman one day and she was telling me her story and I was in a state of listening, a state of bliss as I was listening to the drama of her story, and suddenly she stopped talking and said, “Oh, you are doing healing.” She felt something and she called it “healing.” And so at that time I did not understand completely what was going on, and thought, “Oh, so I am a healer.” For a while then, people called me a healer. [Laughter] And when I saw the limitations of that term, I dropped that. [Laughter] And later on, somebody called me a “spiritual teacher” once, and that must have been the beginning. [Laughter]
How long did it take after the “shift” to integrate what was revealed?
Many years. About ten years. And “spiritual teacher” of course is not an identity. “Spiritual teacher” is a function. Somebody comes, the teaching happens. Somebody leaves, there’s no spiritual teacher left. If I thought it was my identity to be a spiritual teacher, that would be a delusion. It’s not an identity. It’s simply a function in this world. I have been very happy being nobody for many years after the transition. And I was nobody even in the eyes of the world, really. I had not achieved any worldly success. Now, there is a book, and the groups are getting bigger and bigger. And people think I am “somebody.”
How do you deal with that?
Well, I smile. I still know I am “nobody.” [Laughter] Even though all these “projections” come that I am “special.” And for many teachers that is a challenge, to be bombarded with projections of “specialness.” And even teachers who have already gone very deeply sometimes fall back into illusion. The impact of projections that they receive from all their followers or disciples is so strong that after a while the delusion of “specialness” returns. And that is often the beginning of the end of the power of the teaching that comes through. They may then still teach from “memory,” but when the “specialness” returns, that is the end of spiritual power coming through. Any idea of “specialness.” And I have seen it with spiritual teachers.
Yes, many times it has happened. What have you recognized in individuals who have come to you—and I don’t know if you would refer to them as “students’—and in yourself that would lead you to believe that your realization is “true” and that it can be realized by others?
The certainty is complete. There is no need for confirmation from any external source. The realization of peace is so deep that even if I met the Buddha and the Buddha said you are wrong, I would say, “Oh, isn’t that interesting, even the Buddha can be wrong.” [Laughter] So there is just no question about it. And I have seen it in so many situations when there would have been reaction in a “normal state of consciousness”—challenging situations. It never goes away. It’s always there. The intensity of that peace or stillness, that can vary, but it’s always there.
It often becomes more intense when there is an external challenge, if something goes wrong or there is a great loss externally. And then the stillness and peace becomes extremely intense and deepens. And that is the opposite of what usually would happen in the normal state of consciousness, when loss occurs or something goes wrong, so to speak. Agitation, upset, fear arises. Reactivity arises. “Little me” gets stronger. So this is the opposite.
I noticed it the first time I was watching a film not long after the transformation. It was a science-fiction film, and one scene showed the annihilation of Japan, the whole country going up in flames. And I was sitting in the cinema, feeling the bliss deepening and deepening, until there was only That. Then the mind came in and said, “How strange! How can you feel so blissful when you’re watching disaster?” And out of that, a realization developed into what would later become part of my teaching. That is, whenever a great loss of any kind occurs to anybody, loss of whatever kind, disaster, something goes drastically wrong, death, for some people that has been their spiritual breakthrough.
Loss is very painful, because any kind of loss leaves a hole in the fabric of one’s existence. A person dies, or something you had identified with completely is gone. Your home goes up in flames. There is extreme pain at first. But whenever a form dissolves, which is called “death,” what remains is an opening into emptiness. Where the form once was, there’s a hole into emptiness. And if it’s not resisted, if you don’t turn away from it you’ll find that the formless—you could say God—shines through that hole where there was a form that died.
Maybe that is why the Buddhists spend so much time practicing in the graveyard?
Yes, that is right. I’m talking about this now in connection with my inner state, which is always the same although the intensity varies. And it intensifies through any loss or disaster. Has this knowledge become part of the teaching? Yes, because often people come to me because they are in great pain, because of some recent or imminent loss. They may be faced with death. They may have just lost a loved one, or lost their position. It’s often at that point that life becomes too unbearable, and then there is “seeking,” “spiritual seeking.” So I point out that if you surrender into the loss, see what comes through that hole. It’s the winds of grace that blow through that hole.
It’s interesting. When I first read about your “awakening,” I was reminded of St. John of the Cross and the “Dark Night of the Soul.” It seems like you have gone through something very similar. But what I heard you say yesterday at the Gathering (2000) is that it really isn’t necessary.
No.
The “Dark Night of the Soul” seems to be one way that some individuals have managed to have a “shift” in their consciousness. I hear you saying that there is another way. What I have experienced with other spiritual teachers is that almost to the person, they have gone through a similar shift. There has been a “dark night of the soul” and then the “shift” takes place. I have yet to find someone who has done it the other way, who has actually been able to have that realization and not go through “the abyss,” and has been able to help other individuals realize that it is not absolutely necessary.
Yes. One could say that everybody in this world has a spiritual teacher. For most people, their losses and disasters represent the teacher; their suffering is the teacher. And if they stay with that teacher long enough, eventually it will take them to freedom. Maybe not in this lifetime. So everybody has a spiritual teacher. But a “spiritual teaching” in the narrow sense of the word is there to save time and suffering. Without it you would get there anyway, but it saves time.
And every spiritual teaching points to the possibility of the end of suffering—Now. It is true that most teachers have had to go through the “Dark Night of the Soul,” although for one or two it was very, very quick. Ramana Maharshi had one brief death experience. For J. Krishnamurti, it happened when his brother died. He [Krishnamurti] wasn’t “free” yet when they discovered him. There was great potential in him. But he really became “free” after the death of his brother.
Humankind as a whole has been through such vast suffering that one could almost say that every human has suffered enough now. No further suffering is necessary. And it is now possible as spiritual teachings are coming through with greater intensity, perhaps greater than ever before, that many humans will be able to break through without any further need for suffering. Otherwise I would not be teaching. The very essence of the teaching is the message, “You have suffered enough.” The Buddha said it. “I teach suffering, and the end of suffering,” which means, “I show you how suffering arises,” which is an important realization—I talked about that yesterday—and how you can be free of that- So that is the very purpose of spiritual teaching, Jesus says the same, “the Kingdom of Heaven is here. Now” accessible to you here and Now.
In your book, you mentioned that “enlightenment is simply our natural state of “felt” oneness with Being and a state of “feeling-realization.” Is enlightenment based on feeling rather than thinking? Help us understand who feels it and where it is felt.
Yes, well it is certainly closer to feeling than thinking. There is no word to describe the state of connectedness with Being. I am putting together two words in the book: feeling and realization hyphenated Because there is not a correct word that I can use. Language doesn’t have a word for that. So I can only use something that gets relatively close but that’s not it either. Realization sounds a little bit as if it were a “mental” thing. “Oh, I know.” Feeling sounds as if it were an “emotion ” But it is not an emotion. And it is not a mental recognition of anything. Perhaps the word that is closest to it is the realization of stillness, which is when the mental noise that we call thinking, subsides. There is a gap in the stream of thought, but there is absolutely no loss of consciousness. In that ”gap” there is full and intense consciousness, but it has not taken on form.
Every thought in consciousness has been born into form, a temporary form and then it dies and goes onto another form. You could say the whole world is consciousness having taken birth as form, manifesting as form temporarily, and then dying, which means dissolving as form. What always remains is the “essence” of all that exists—consciousness itself.
Now, when a form dies, I pointed out earlier it is an external loss; it’s a great opportunity for the formless, pure consciousness to be recognized. The same happens when a thought-stream comes to an end. Thought dies. And suddenly that which is beyond thought—you may call it pure consciousness—is realized as deep stillness.
Now the question you may ask, and perhaps have asked, is “Who realizes the stillness?” If there is no longer the personal entity there, who is it that becomes enlightened? [Laughter] One could say, of course, nobody becomes “enlightened,” because it is the dissolving of the illusion of a separate “me,” which is not anybody’s achievement, or anybody’s success. It looks as if there were a human being becoming enlightened, but that is an external appearance. What is really happening is that consciousness has withdrawn from its identification with form, and realizes its own nature. It is a “Self-realization” of consciousness. Therefore it is a cosmic event. What looks like a human being, a person, becoming free of suffering and entering a state of deep peace—from an external viewpoint—in reality is a cosmic event. Please remember that all language is limited, so these are just little “pointers.”
Consciousness is withdrawing from the game of form. For millions of years, as long as the world has been in existence, consciousness has been engaged in the play of form, of becoming the “dance” of phenomenal universe, “Lila.” And then consciousness becomes tired of the game. [Chuckle]
It needs a rest.
Yes. But having lost itself, that was part of the game. Having lost itself in form, after having lost itself in form, it knows itself fully for the first time. Don’t take anything I say too literally. They are just little pointers, because no one can explain the universe through making “sounds” or thoughts. So it is far too vast to be explained. I’m not explaining the universe. These are just tiny hints. It is beyond words, beyond thought. What I am saying could almost be treated as a poem, an approximation, just an approximation to the Truth.
What is “enlightenment,” and why does there seem to be so much confusion about it in these times?
Well, the confusion arises because so many people write about it without knowing it directly. One can become an expert on it without knowing it directly. Because an expert means you know a lot “about” something, but you do not necessarily know “it.” Confusion arises there.
What is enlightenment? Again, it is so vast not any one definition would do it justice. It would be a tiny aspect of it. And you can look at it from so many perspectives, this one, that one, that one. And every time it looks as if it were different.
Another reason why it can be confusing is you reach one person’s definition of enlightenment, he or she is looking from “this” perspective. And then you read somebody else’s, and they are looking from that perspective. There’s the ancient old Indian story of blind men describing an elephant, one touching the trunk, another a leg, the tail, and soon. (Laughter]
The confusion arises in trying to understand through the mind what enlightenment is. That is impossible. Any description is only a signpost. So the mind can only go a certain way, and then the signpost has to be left behind. And the mind gets attached to a signpost, which is a teaching or description, a concept. And then confusion arises because then it sees another signpost and says, “Oh, maybe that is the true one.” It becomes defensive, identities with “this one” and says that’s me.
So, to the question. “What is enlightenment?” one could say simply, it is when there is no longer any identification with thinking. When there is no longer self-identification with thought processes and self-seeking through thinking. Then the compulsive nature of thinking ceases. Then gaps arise in the mind-stream. That means the unconditioned consciousness arises and is realized as stillness or presence. There is nobody there who “realizes.” It is realized. It realizes itself. [Chuckle]
In your book you also mention the “observing presence.” Is it possible to practice being the observer to the point of recognizing it as your natural state or condition?
Yes. The beginning of spiritual awakening is the realization that “I am not my thoughts,” and “I am not my emotions.” So there arises the ability suddenly to observe what the mind is doing, to observe thought processes, to become aware of repetitive thought patterns without being trapped in them, without being completely “in them.” So there is a “standing back.” It is the ability to observe what the mind is doing, and the ability also to observe an emotion. I define “emotion” as the body’s reaction to what the mind is doing. The ability to “watch” that without being identified. That means your whole sense of identity shifts from being the thought or the emotion to being the “observing presence.”
And then you can observe a reaction, a menial or emotional reaction. Anger arises. The anger may still be there. But there is the observing “presence” which is the alertness in the background that watches the anger. So there is no longer a “self” in it. The ability to observe thought already is the arising of stillness. Because it is from that dimension that thought is observed.
And then the observer becomes stronger. And what is being witnessed has less heaviness to it, less momentum. So at first you are witnessing. Then you become aware of the witness itself, the power that lies in the witnessing, the power of stillness, the power of consciousness. And then you know that as yourself. You are That.
If you dwell in that continuously, it means you are free of the world of form. Until that happens you are imprisoned in physical and mental formations. You are trapped in thinking. You are (rapped in emotions. You are a fictitious self trapped in form. The true self is beyond form and to know that is liberation.
I want to get into what is traditionally referred to as “Cosmic Consciousness,” where the Self, unshakable silence or Beingness is separate from activity. There appears to be a maturity that takes place beyond “Cosmic Consciousness” where an awakening occurs to the reality that no separation between the Self and the world really exists. Adyashanti, who also spoke at the Gathering (2000) yesterday mentioned something about this “maturity” when he got into the three statements, “the world is illusion,” “Brahman is real” and “the world is Brahman.” it appears a “maturation time” is required, but in some sense no time is necessary. How does this come about?
Well, certain sages made the statement, in India, especially, “the world is unreal,” and of course when people read it, it becomes a belief, and they repeat the belief, and then they argue with others who say, “No, no it is real, can’t you see it is real?” Those who made the statement originally and where it came from—I know exactly why they said it. Because I feel exactly the same.
The way I experience the world, it’s like a surface phenomenon. There’s such vastness of Being, the stillness is so all-encompassing. It fills almost everything, it fills the whole space and yet it is empty. And anything that happens, events, or phenomena in people, are like ripples on the surface of Being. That’s how I perceive. And ripples, they come and go. They are not all that real. No ripple or wave has any separate existence from the whole. It just looks for a moment as if the wave or ripple was a separate entity. But it isn’t.
So the whole phenomenal world to me is like a ripple on the surface of Being. And in that sense I could say, although I never say it as such, “the world is unreal”—unreal relative to what I know to be true, what I feel, what I experience. Experience is not the right word, because it implies time. So it is to be rooted in that timeless slate of consciousness, because it’s only in the phenomenal world where time arises. And there is what looks like an entity, a “person,” that exists simultaneously as form in time, and yet is the formless. So there is a paradox coming in whenever one realizes. As form you are still in time. As the formless you are beyond time. So the formless, the unmanifested, shines through you when you have realized the formless. It shines through the form into this world. It’s like God shining through. The form becomes transparent.
You see this in anybody who has “realized,” the absence of personality or ego. There may be certain traits of behavior, but they are not ego. It is the absence of needing to be somebody. And then it can take time as it did in my case, for this to become a teaching. Ramana Maharshi also went completely into the formless, into Being, and didn’t even speak anymore, and didn’t feed himself anymore. And then time passed on the external, not within—he was rooted in the timeless. But on the external, time passed and as things changed, he started eating and feeding himself again. He started interacting with people. He started to speak again. And then the teaching arose out of that. Time was needed for that to happen.
So there is a role for “time” to act as “grist for the mitt,” which allows for that union between the unmanifest and manifest to come about?
Yes. There is always a paradox when one talks about time in the content of “spirituality” There’s a question that is sometimes asked, “Do I need time to become enlightened?” Because it does seem like that. And the answer is yes and no. The answer I would give to that contains a paradox. And I say, yes, you need time until you realize that you don’t need time anymore, [Laughter] So the truth here, it is only through paradox that this truth can be expressed. And to do away with paradox would limit it.
How do you define the term “ego?” Is it possible to have any remains of an ego and be perfectly enlightened?
Ego means self-identification with thinking, to be trapped in thought, which means to have a mental image of “me” based on thought and emotions. So ego is there in the absence of a witnessing presence. There’s the unobserved mind and the unobserved mind is the ego. As the witness comes in, ego still operates. It has a momentum that is still there, but a different dimension of consciousness has come in. The question whether somebody can be enlightened …
Yes, is it possible to be perfectly enlightened and have any remains of an ego?
Well, perhaps not perfectly enlightened, but there can be remains of ego still there, because I have seen it in teachers. I have seen the ego return in some teachers. So the ego can go into almost a “coma,” [Laughter] and then wake up out of its coma perhaps due to the projections, ego-projections that the teacher is bombarded with. As the teacher is there, more people appear and gather around the teacher. And they (those who gather around them) all have their own ego-projections. They make the teacher very “special.” And specialness is always ego, whether special in my misery or special because I am the greatest, the ego doesn’t really mind. [Chuckle] So perhaps in those teachers the ego was not completely gone. It just had been reduced to an extremely weak state, but then gained strength again.
Ramakrishna refers to a “provisional ego,” where there is a very thin line between that which is real and that which exists in time/space which allows some sort of presence in the world. I think he said something like fifteen out of sixteen particles are not there in an ego form, but it’s that one-sixteenth of a particle left over that is able to interact with those who are still in possession of an ego.
Yes, that’s good.
Some spiritual teachers advocate spiritual practices and others reject them as a waste of time. What’s your perspective on this?
There may be a place for spiritual practice. The difficulty with spiritual practice is again that most practices give you “time.” They are based on time and on becoming, or “getting good at” something. In the end every practice will have to be left behind. No practice can take you to liberation. That is important to know. It can be a little step that is useful until you realize you don’t need it anymore, because after a certain point it becomes a hindrance.
Now if a teacher gives you a practice, he or she would perhaps point out when you don’t need it anymore or you realize yourself when you don’t need it anymore. No technique can take you there. That is the important thing.
Personally, I don’t teach practices as such. The power of the teaching is sufficient without needing to go for any practice. Although some people when I speak of awareness of the “inner body” call it a technique. I would not call it a technique because it is too simple for that. When the oak tree feels its roots in the earth, its connectedness with the earth, it is not practicing a technique. That is its natural state, to feel that connectedness. So I would not call “feeling the inner body” a technique.
Surrendering to “what is” or “the Now*’ seems to be an important aspect of your teaching. Is there a distinction between “surrendering to what is,” and the use of the popular cliché, “go with the flow of life, where ever it takes us”?
Surrendering only refers to this moment, whatever “is” at this moment—to accept unconditionally and fully whatever arises at this moment. “Going with the flow” is a more general term. For some people it is an excuse for not taking action and it refers usually to one’s life situation. Let’s say you are in a particular job and that is the flow, you stay in it.
Surrender is only in reference to Now. So “going with the flow” is not necessarily true surrender and may lead to passivity, lethargy and inaction. Surrender to the Now is something very different because it only concerns accepting the reality of this moment. Whatever action is needed will then rise out of that state of complete acceptance. The most powerful state for a human to be in is the state of embracing completely the reality of what is—Now. It is to say “Yes” to life, which is now and always now. There is a vast power in that “Yes,” that state of inner non-resistance to what is. Action arises out of that if it’s needed, as a spontaneous response to the situation.
So surrender to Now never leads to inaction because it only concerns the reality of this moment and perhaps action is needed. In the book I give the example of being stuck in the mud. So you wouldn’t say, “O.K., I surrender to this and I’m going to stay here.” It simply means, “it is;” there is a recognition of “it is” and to saying yes to “it is.” And there’s much greater power now that arises that will move through you and manifest as action if it is needed than there could ever be in the state of saying, “no” to “what is”—and then perhaps taking action that is always contaminated with negativity. Whenever you say “no” and then action arises because you are fighting “what is” that is karmic action in Eastern terms, and it leads to further suffering because it arises out of suffering, which is the non-acceptance of “what is”—suffering. Action arising out of suffering is contaminated with suffering and causes further suffering, and that is karma. Action that arises out of a state of “acceptance” is totally free of karma. And there is a vast difference.
The Shape Of The Hands…Earth, Air, Water, Fire
Throughout history palmists have developed various systems of categorization for hand types. Often you see the hand divided into seven types: Elementary, Square, Spatulate, Philosophic, Conic, Psychic and Mixed. In traditional Chinese Palmistry there are five hand types that correspond to the five elements of Water, Fire, Wood, Earth and Metal.
To me, the easiest and most common sense classification uses the four elemental categories used in western astrology: Earth, Air, Fire and Water.
The elemental type is defined by the shape of the palm in relation to the length of the fingers. Is the palm square or oblong? Are the fingers short or long?
Square palm + short fingers = Earth Hand
Square palm + long fingers = Air Hand
Oblong palm + short fingers = Fire Hand
Oblong palm + long fingers = Water hand
The Earth hand is square and solid. The fingers are short and the palm exhibits few lines. Those that do appear are strong and well defined. Subjects with Earth hands tend to be level-headed, no-nonsense people. Physical experience may be more important than intellectual pursuits. Practical in nature, the Earth type may be conservative and probably prefers spending time outdoors.
The Air hand has long fingers and tends to have an abundance of clear lines in the palm. Air types spend their time in the intellecual realms. They are curious and full of ideas. They thrive on nervous energy and may be prone to worry and stress. Air types are communicators and are often good at working with the public. However they may tend to intellectualize their feelings and can have difficulty with close, personal relationships.
A Fire hand has an elongated palm and short fingers. The lines in the palm are usually strong and well-defined and the hand may have a busy or vibrant feel to it. Fire types are energetic and action oriented. They have a need for variety and may lack patience. Then tend to be individualistic and often make good leaders.
Water hands have many fine, spidery lines and both the palm and the fingers are long. The Water hand is found on the sensitive, emotional type of individual. Water types are caring, receptive and artistic. They are primarily motivated by feelings. They may have trouble coping with stress and are often happiest in a peaceful environment. Well, this Water hand is of our new President, Barack Obama.
Most hands are a cross between two or more types of hands and it is rare that you see hands that are the epitome of any one type. I have found that the Earth hand is the one that is easiest to spot. The Water hand also stands out, it is just so long and elegant. The Air and Fire hands are similar AND they are often the two that are blended, at least in our society. I feel our society needs the energy of Fire and Air right now…the Fire of Creativity and the Air to blow on it and fan the flames!
Moving From a 3D to a 4D Consciousness
As we humans move into the Age of Aquarius, our consciousness is transforming from the 3D (density level) to 4D. One of the characteristics of 3D is separation, whether it be separation from the God-Source, from each other, or separating aspects of ourselves within ourselves. This idea of separation has been necessary in 3D to keep us in the 3D experience that we have each chosen. This is one of the experiences that Eckhart Tolle shared was the catalyst for his Awakening in The Power of Now. He could not “Live With Himself.” So, he asked, who was the HE that could not live with HIMSELF. Fascinating, isn’t it? This is the basis for all of Eckhart’s work and the basis for the shifts that we are all feeling RIGHT NOW!
At the time of his spiritual transformation, Tolle had just completed a degree in languages and history at the University of London, graduating with a first, yet he was anything but happy. “I’d done well because I was motivated by fear of not being good enough, so I worked very hard,” he says. With no plans for his future, he grew more depressed until, as he puts it, “I couldn’t live with myself any longer.” The phrase is a cliche, but in The Power of Now, Tolle describes being stopped dead by its implications: “If I cannot live with myself, there must be two of me: the ‘I’ and the ‘self’ that ‘I’ cannot live with. Maybe, I thought, only one of them is real. I was so stunned by this realisation that my mind stopped. I was conscious, but there were no more thoughts.”
When thinking later resumed, as Tolle tells it, things were different: he no longer identified with the “voice in my head” that was doing the thinking. Instead, he could observe his thoughts, as if from a distance. He could see that they somehow weren’t real: that the real him was the consciousness watching the thoughts, not the thoughts themselves. “There was a wonderful sense of peace,” he recalls now. “Not a desensitised peace - you can experience that if you take enough drugs, or drink enough. But a peace that was joyful, and alive, and very alert.”
As we move from the 3D into the 4D reality, we are moving from separation to integration. So, the ways of thinking that served us in the 3D world that we came into are no longer serving us in the 4D world we are moving into. We, that have accepted the task, taken the torch, of creating and thriving in the 4D world are serving as frontrunners in this new way of living.
So, of course, we will have a bit more of an uphill journey than if we were just following the status quo. You would not be taking this call if you were firmly living in the 3D world. The delicious dilemma is that we are still living in a 3D world while moving into, or maybe even living in a 4D reality! 
Right now we are all feeling an acceleration, a yearning, a pull which we cannot ignore to move forward into this way of living and working. For some of us, it can be confusing, frustrating and almost maddening! That is how you know it is TIME! I say this with the greatest of empathy.
It is as if we are experiencing a “quickening”. I know, I know, that sounded a bit “Highlander” - I loved those movies. There is an intense sense of urgency that is compelling us to let go of the outdated ways of doing business, the old belief systems, to shed the internal scripts and patterns we have been living with until now. We are responsible for our own success, we are responsible for our own creations and we are responsible for what we manifest!
David Hawkins wrote in Power vs. Force, “By taking the responsibility for the consequences of his own perceptions, the observer can transcend the role of victim to an understanding that ‘nothing out there has power over you.’ It isn’t life’s events, but how one reacts to them and the attitude that one has about them, that determines whether such events have a positive or negative effect on one’s life, whether they’re experienced as opportunity or as stress.”
Many spiritual teachers and new age thinkers have also spoken about how our thoughts create our reality. Since the explosion of The Secret and Oprah’s embracing of her spirituality, the world will never be the same! Like it or not…The Secret opened the doors.
Sharing a Favorite Spiritual Teacher
I found a spiritual writer, whose work I have really enjoyed and been deeply moved by (yes, I read other authors besides Eckhart Tolle…but don’t tell him, he might be hurt). Her name is Gina Lake and she channels a Higher Level Being named Theo. I have found her work to be along the same lines as Eckhart’s, with the focus on living in the NOW and accepting what life brings us and learning from it and growing. To me, each of her books is a little jewel and I would ask you to consider supporting her by purchasing through her website or amazon. Gina feels the work is so critical to the place that we are all in now that she is offering a lot of her information for FREE, yes, I used the FREE word… go here and get her free 65-page e-book by Gina Lake called “Radiance: Experiencing Divine Presence.” “Radiance” shows you how to experience the divine in the world in simple ways by being very present. It is possible to experience the mysterious truth that everything is an expression of the Divine by paying close attention to the many signs that reveal this great Mystery. “Radiance” points out these clues so that you can more easily recognize yourself as the Divine—that which is creating and has created this “you” that you think you are and all that this “you” is experiencing.
It can be downloaded for free as a PDF at http://www.endless-satsang.com/radiance.html (Nirmala’s website) or at http://www.radicalhappiness.com/free (Gina’s website). Feel free to share it with others who might enjoy it. Love….
The Various Fingerprint Types
WHORL: The Whorl takes the longest to form in the womb. It consists of one or more ridges which make or tend to make a complete circle and it has a characteristic circle or bulls-eye look to it. The circle closes completely. The Whorl can be found in several variations, see the ones with the red center showing how the circle can be different from one Whorl to the next. Probably 35% of all fingerprints are Whorls.
Subcategory : A Composite WHORL or Composite consists of two separate loop formations, with two separate and distinct sets of Looping actions.
Subcategory : The Peacock is a cross between a Loop and a Whorl. It is like a Loop that has a small Whorl in the center.
LOOP is that type of pattern that looks like a balloon coming in from one side or the other. In 80% of the Loops, they come from the Ulnar side (the Little Finger). In 20% of the Loops they come from the thumb or Radial side. Probably 60% of all fingerprint are Loops.
The other 5% or so of fingerprints are divided among arches, tented arches and all the rest of the variations. If you have any of these, they are considered “kinda rare.”
TENTED ARCH is that type of pattern which possesses either an angle, an up thrust, or two of the three basic characteristics of the arch. It looks exactly like an upside down T with a simple arch across the top of it.
ARCH is that type of pattern in which the ridges enter upon one side, make a rise or wave in the center, and flow or tend to flow out upon the opposite side. This is the simplest pattern, yet so elegant.
Of course, there are sooo many combinations and it all sounds so easy the way I have written it here…trust me, the minute you look at a few hands you will be stumped at some of the amazing combination fingerprints you see.
How Does Knowing My Life Purpose Help?
Your Life Purpose is your reason for being, why you here, the reason you incarnated. Finding it is THE very most important thing you can do in life. Here are two of my favorite quotes on finding and owning your own power, being responsible for your own happiness.
Caroline Myss says: “Nothing is more ordinary than you discovering how extraordinary you are.
and my all time favorite…
Marianne Williamson says:”Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. ” It is our light, not our darkness, that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It’s not just in some of us; it’s in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.”
My Life Purpose, In My Hands?
You keep talking about Life Purpose, what exactly does that MEAN? Your Life Purpose is NOT your job, or even your value system…it is the spark of a theme that underlies all of what you do. For instance, if your Life Purpose is the Artist in the Spotlight, then you would have an innate need to be in the public eye presenting your creative life work. The Mentor is fulfilled by sharing all they know and nurturing others along on THEIR paths. This is just the tip of the iceberg of this system. There are soo many combinations of Life Purposes and nuances found in the fingerprints.
Hand Analysis
Here is a bit of intro info on Hand Analysis and how it can help YOU. There will be much more info on Hand Analysis in the next few posts, so add me to your RSS or whatever works for you!
Knowing WHY we are here is one of the BIG questions that can be a constant, sometimes incessant, refrain in our heads. I feel that the YEARNING that many people feel as an underlying incessant refrain in the mind is our NOT knowing this basic Life Purpose. A lucky few seem to be born knowing their life path and trot merrily along…never second guessing themselves. The rest of us, and I ever-so resoundingly include myself, must search, look for and strive to find the ANSWER, never suspecting that The Secret Is In Your Hands. That said, I also completely believe in what Eckhart Tolle tells us…“Awareness is the power that is concealed within the present moment. … The ultimate purpose of human existence, which is to say, your purpose, is to bring that power into this world.” — Eckhart Tolle (A New Earth: Awakening to Your Life’s Purpose)
Eckhart also tells us that Be-ing in the Now is our Life Purpose, he calls it our Inner Purpose. The “Other” Purpose is what we are talking about here. Once we are able to embrace the Inner Purpose of accepting who we are and to live in the Now…the rest is easier…ahhh.
Back to the work at hand (another bad hand pun). We each came into this lifetime with unique and wonderful life-markers created just for us…our fingerprints. Each fingerprint was carefully placed on a very specific finger, giving you clues as to why YOU are here! That is just the beginning, the exquisite lines, the myriad of marks and the shape of our hands also have a hidden message to tell.
Your fingerprints are unique, unchanging and completely formed five months before birth. In 1979 Richard Unger, master hand analyst, discovered that our fingerprints also hold the answer to the all important question of what you are to do with your life. Since then, this ground breaking method for self-discovery has helped thousands of individuals to connect with their unique life purpose and find greater direction, meaning and fulfillment.
Using a combination of modalities, with a focus on hand Analysis, I can help you find your Life Purpose Clues and EXPLODE Your Passion! Let’s do it!
The Blissful Dog REVEALED!
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